What’s next for you now that you’ve finished school for good?
I’ve gotten that question quite a bit actually. It’s normal for people to always ask of your future plans after reaching a milestone. I’m happy to done with undgrad and graduate school. I’m happy with that job that I have. I’m happy with the people that are in my circle. I’m happy to say that I feel comfortable in life.
What do you think of when you picture yourself being successful?
Some people envision material things such as a big house, nice car, nice clothes. Others envision a spouse and children. Then there’s some that envision being famous, or a person of status and power.
There’s so many different definitions of what people think is success but what really matters is what YOUR vision of success is. I think one of the worst things you could do is to allow someone else’s vision of success dictate your own. That you’re not successful if you don’t have a spouse by a certain age, or if you’re not the manager at the company, or if you don’t have a certain amount of money in your bank account.
I’m a firm believer of having healthy hair. As I nurture my hair to health, it’s good to have inspiration available of young ladies that are taking this journey just like I am for tips, advice, and encouragement. Although there technically isn’t such a thing as a hair twin as we are all different genetically, physically, and much more, you can still find others that have similarities in their hair that can give good suggestions of products and styles that would be worth a try.
I started the Natural Hair Blog Directory a few years ago to help others find ladies who had similar hair textures as their own. I enjoyed my time in doing it. The directory swelled to hold over 350 natural hair blogs. Despite it’s success, my time is now limited. I’ve had to make a difficult decision to no longer keep the blog going. My focus has switched now to new goals that I have in my life that will require more time and energy from me.
Nevertheless, I still want to endorse all of the bloggers and vloggers that were in the directory. I have listed many of the names of the blogs/vlogs in categories by texture and listed their porosity, density, and strand thickness. Feel free to visit the blogs that interest you (from Wavy, Curly, Coily, to Kinky) and I hope the information they share helps you in your journey. (Also if you are a natural hair blogger/vlogger and would like to be added to this list, just let me know. The more the merrier right?)
Around the Way Curls (Antoinette-Low Shanti-High porosity, Antoinette-Thin Shanti-Normal density, Antoinette-Normal Shanti-Normal strand thickness)
Oh My Curls (High porosity, Dense density, Normal strand thickness)
Tiff and Coco (Average porosity, Thin/Normal mix density, Normal strand thickness)
Like I just don’t feel like there’s words in the English language that will truly suffice to describe my level of exhaustion when it comes to school.
I started my journey to earn my Master’s degree back in the Spring of 2013. I took it slow at first but eventually I crept up to the Summer of 2015 and felt irritated that I still had 6 more classes to go.
I have been holding down a full time job through the entire journey as my light, gas, and water bill could care less about my education goal; they just want their money. However, going through this journey with only 1 or 2 classes a semester was making me feel anxious. I was tired of midnight deadlines and papers. I was tired of forcing myself to read through boring chapters. I was tired of pretending like I was so intrigued by Amy’s discussion post with my meeting the minimum 4 sentences of describing how she made a GREAT point.
So I did something crazy that I wouldn’t recommend to anyone unless they just can’t do otherwise. I tackled full time work with full time school. Working a full time day job with 9 graduate credit hours. I did this for two semesters and hated every moment of it. Now mind you, I enjoyed the topics (except for Statistics…that was straight hell) so it wasn’t like I didn’t like what I was learning but just the stress of meeting deadlines and completing assignments as soon as I got off from a stressful day at work was overwhelming. It was so hard to mentally focus to have creative ideas and designs at work and then come home and push my brain even more to focus on theories and designs. That was rough.
You know how people look back on things and say that the time flew by. Nah. I did NOT feel that. Graduation day came at a slow pace. But I’m glad that eventually it did and I’m happy it’s all over. It doesn’t even feel like graduation has happen yet. It hasn’t fully hit me yet. Maybe when the Fall comes and I realize I’m not starting class, it will but until then I was try to focus on a few things that I’ve become increasingly anxious to get started on:
Growing spiritually – I’ve seriously slacked off from where I once was. Yes, I’ve stayed pretty much consistent with going to church but when it came to daily prayer and reading the bible, that’s where I’ve fallen off. It’s so important for me to make this a daily habit and I plan to focus on doing so.
Progressing in My Career Goals – I love my job but one thing about my field is that it is ALWAYS changing. With e-learning design there’s SO many talents that I can master to make my courses exceptional. I hope to study on my own time to broaden my talents to do just that.
Social Life – I’ve seriously neglected friends and family as I relentlessly sought after my career goals with my education. I regret doing so but now is a better time than ever to be a better friend, girlfriend, and daughter to those that matter most.
Finances – The state of my finances aren’t extremely bad but they are not extremely great either. With student loans, credit card debt, and other bills holding their hand out, I have to do a better job at management if i want to stay afloat but live life fully.
Physical Health – I’ve been putting this off so for long but do to some health issues that I’m having, I have to start putting my physical health as a priority meaning better eating habits, water drinking, nurturing my natural hair, better sleep habits and exercising.
Community Service – I’m a firm believer that as you reach milestones in your life, you should hold the door open for others so that they can grow and reach their goals as well. We have to help each other. I have several service projects up my sleeve (one of which is to begin career coaching) that I can’t wait to get started on to do just that.
So now’s the time! Just thought I’d give a little back story of where the new categories have come from. This blog will not only serve to talk about my journey as I aim for more out of life but will track my progress as I start shifting my focus to holding the door open for others to reach their goals. With this blog, I want to share my experiences, the lessons I’ve learned, and hopefully be able to relate with someone else out there that is hoping to aim for more in their life as well. I’d love to help anyone else that I can to help plan their journey to the life they envision when they truly aim for more. So follow the blog, follow the social media accounts, and let’s aim for more together.
This is a response to all the annoying comments that I have seen online when ladies decide to wear their hair straight. All the women that automatically assume that if you decide to keep your hair straight, then you still are following the old standard of beauty that straight is the right way. To all the women that think you have a self-esteem issues if you wear your hair straight. If you have done this to wag your finger at women with straight hair, this simple message is for you. Read More »
Every now and then I’ll post videos that deeply intrigued me from the TED.com site. It’s actually on my bucket list to attend a TED conference one day some day. Until then I will keep myself satisfied by watching numerous talks to expand my perspective of the world.
This TED talk is for:
people that are frustrated with their current jobs
people who want to quit their jobs, people who wish to have a job that they enjoy
people who are nervous about quitting a job
people who just want to figure out their purpose and career goals Read More »