Right now I have my hair in mini twists and by doing so it has taken me back to when I first went natural. I was struggling to find styles that I could work with and felt confident with doing. It wasn’t until a friend of mine that was also natural suggested that I wear mini-twists and she was the first person to do them on my hair. And omg I fell in love with them. Thus my pixie twists style was born.
Now I’m back to one of my first natural hair loves and it’s made me reflect on some truths that I learned the hard way when I went natural. So if you’re considering going natural, let me share the real with you so that you know what you’re getting into it because it ain’t all rainbows, fairytales and unicorns, honey…
And for the record, I have split this posts into 2 parts. Not because I’m trying to get post views but just because I don’t want you to look at how much I wrote and think “this girl talk too much, never mind”. Lol maybe if you like Part 1, you’ll stay tune for part 2. I just don’t want to overwhelm you!
Truth #1: It’s going to be challenging.
TRUST ME you will NOT have a perfect twist out style the first time after watching those youtube videos to whatever time in the morning you was up. You’re about to start a journey of trial and errors with PLENTY of failed attempts and bad hair days to come. Accept it. Embrace it. Decide what your simple go to style will be when it does fail (for me it was a simple pulled back puff).
Truth #2: You’re going to want to revert back so have a go to protective style.
I have yet to personally meet ONE natural that said she never ever glanced back for a second after having a failed attempt at a hair style. There will be days that you will think about having your relaxer back. There will be days you’ll want to straighten your hair with no cares of if it gets heat damage. There will be days, my love! And it’s only temporary frustration. So when those days come, have a protective style that you like and can get done so that you and your hair can take a break. Sometimes you just need to breathe and not be worried about hair before you make a permanent decision altering your hair. That’s normal.
Truth #3: Having a hair twin is a myth.
There is no such thing of having an exact hair twin that has the exact same hair as you. Even if you have the same texture, that doesn’t mean you have the same hair porosity, the same hair density, or the same hair strand thickness. All of those things matter with your hair care regimen and how your hair styles will turn out. Now of course you can hunt for someone who has very similar qualities. Maybe 2 of the 4, or maybe if you’re lucky 3 of the 4. Bottom line, don’t have your hopes too ridiculously high when you find a natural hair blogger online. Yes, they can provide great tips and tricks, but don’t forget the differences that your hair may have with them so that you don’t have unrealistic expectations.
Truth #4: Expensive doesn’t mean better.
You may feel the urge to find the PERFECT product for your hair. And in that mad dash of shopping where you evolve to a product junkie, you’ll wonder if that $35 conditioner is worth it. Yes we’re taught that you get what you pay for but trust me, your hair really isn’t THAT picky to only like high priced products. What I’m saying is that don’t think your hair will only do great with the $40 gel and not the $5 ECO styler gel. My advice is to start low just to get your regimen set. From there, you’re welcome to explore and splurge, but don’t trick yourself into think expensive means a better product. I’ve had plenty of expensive products in my hair that my hair snuffed it’s nose up at.
Truth #5: Not everyone is an expert.
WordPress. Weebly. Blogger. Youtube. It takes all of maybe 5 minutes to start a website. You can write whatever you like and post it on the internet for the world to see. But that doesn’t mean that you’re an expert on what you speak on and the same goes for anybody else that you look up. Now there are a lot of very knowledgeable and experienced natural hair bloggers and vloggers on the internet that are great resources. But my urge to you is to not read one post and think that it’s the gospel truth. Do some good research with multiple blogs and sources. Read books and articles. Talk to knowledgeable beauticians. Like seriously, do real research. Everyone has an opinion but that doesn’t mean that it is the best thing to follow for your hair. Refer back to truth #3 that your hair is unique so not everything will work for you no matter how long your hair idol’s hair is.
Truth #6: It will be harder to find a beautician.
It can be hard to find a GOOD beautician that genuinely cares about your hair and not just a stylist that wants your hair to be perfect. Stylists try to make your hair look good even if that means sacrificing your edges or your ends. Good beauticians care about the health of your hair to protect it while it’s in the style. Health should be your number one priority (that’s a big reason of why many people go natural in the first place) so be picky about who you allow to do your hair. Get recommendations. Read reviews. Look at photos of past clients. Go to someone with GOOD customer service (which is such a rarity these days but I digress). And most of all find someone that is knowledgeable about natural hair. You’re putting too much work in your hair to just let anybody touch it so select the right beautician for you.
Truth #7: Get ready to get out of your comfort zone.
Some of us have had straight hair since day one so it seemed. So to do such a switch to wear your hair naturally can be an overwhelming change. It’s a change that will take time to adjust to. Some people zoom through it as they love a variety of styles anyway so it’s no different to them. While for others, it means they will have to learn to love themselves more of who they naturally look like. We are all across the spectrum of how we handle the shift to wearing our hair naturally so it may be a step of out of your comfort zone. Remember that this is you and there’s only one you. You may be uncomfortable, but that’s okay. Your natural look will start to feel natural more and more like you after awhile.
So that’s truths 1-7. Stay tune tomorrow for Part 2 of this post. Did you experience any of these truths for yourself? Tell me about it in the comments section! And don’t be afraid to share this post to spread the truths to others!